Tips For Traveling as a Couple: How to Not Kill Each Other

Traveling as a couple truly tests your love for one another. You aren’t usually “your best self” when you absolutely stink, are exhausted, stressed about money or homesick. But boy do you learn SO much about each other when your love is pushed to the limits. In this post, I’ll be sharing my tried and tested tips for traveling as a couple… (coming from someone who has traveled with their significant other for the last 11 years!)

Tips For Traveling as a Couple

Tips for Traveling as a Couple - Renee Roaming

Exploring Grampians National Park, Australia

First, Our Story…

My husband and I were only 19 years old when we went on our first long trip together. This adventure entailed a 2-month traverse across South America and there were plenty of ups and downs.

You think you know someone fairly well… until you see them vomiting up their guts, peeing in the backcountry, shattered after two long days of transit, or pushed to exhaustion on a multi-day trek.

During that trip, I learned an incredible amount about myself but also about my husband (who was my boyfriend of 18 months at the time). I learned that it’s okay to look gross and feel vulnerable in front of each other, that at the end of the day it actually brings you closer.

It showed me that we could both step up in times of need and take care of each other. It taught me to have (A LOT) of patience and kindness, even if it was the last thing I felt like doing. Over the course of those 2 months, we saw the best and the worst sides of each other.

There were some things that I didn’t like to see or feel, but these moments helped our relationship to grow and mature.

Tips for Traveling as a Couple

Looking like babies on our trip to South America in 2009 (excuse the photo quality!)

I have taken many more trips with my husband since that South American journey. In 2012 we road tripped for 3 months across North America, and in 2014 we spent 6 weeks exploring Europe together.

When we eventually were married in November 2014, I felt like I knew the real man behind those gorgeous blue eyes. I believe spending 24 hours a day together on those long trips really helped us get to know one another and grow closer.

Since marrying we turned our love for travel into a full-time career, so now we pretty much spend 24/7 together (including the time we lived in a tiny van for 7 months as we road tripped to all 59 American National Parks…)

These tips haven’t changed over the years, in contrast I think they have just been more solidified each trip we take. Like anything in life though, it’s always a learning process and continual adaptation is key to growth and happiness.

Tips for Traveling as a Couple - Renee Roaming

Taking in the views of Trolltunga in 2014

These are some of the things I have learned about traveling with a loved one. I am definitely not perfect and have fallen victim to all of these mistakes, but you live and you learn right?

Go with the flow

Don’t be that annoying person who needs to have everything planned to the last second. This can be very stressful and will make the trip feel rushed and like something you need to “tick-off”. If things don’t work out as they expected, just laugh about it and brainstorm what you will do next, as a duo.

Have some alone time

When traveling, sometimes the only “alone time” you will get is when you use the bathroom or take a shower, and these are often not even option if you are camping. Deliberately schedule some alone time. For us, this often looks like one of us grabbing a coffee or going for a walk while the other person chills in the hotel, van, tent, or wherever. Another option is to invest in some noise canceling headphones and each person can get into their own little chill-out zone.

Tips for Traveling as a Couple - Renee Roaming

Living in a van together for 7 months as we explored America’s National Parks

Don’t forget to be nice

When you are on the go all the time it might slip your mind to say nice words to each other or show your appreciation. It’s so important to still say those things you might think the other person just “knows”, like a simple “thank you”, “please” or “I love you”. In contrast, be mindful of the words you do say. Think before you speak. Consider how your words might make the other person feel before blurting them out in a moment of frustration.

Acknowledge when things are tough

When everything just sucks it can help to point it out and make a conscious effort to not let it get between you. Try to laugh about it and work through it together. If you turn on each other it will suck WAY more. We have learned over the years to just have a good laugh when things are going badly… I mean, what is whining about it going to change?

Couples Adventure Getaway to British Columbia Golden Ears Provincial Park 1

Camping in Golden Ears Provincial Park, Canada

Be lighthearted

A silly car singalong will always make you feel good. Even if you have been driving for hours, crank up your favorite tunes and dance and sing until our heart is content. My husband and I often get to a “delirious” stage when we have been traveling for a while. Blasting Taylor Swift at full volume never ceases to put us in a better mood (my husband might kill me for writing that…)

Capture memories

Don’t forget to bring a tripod if you want some photos together! These make amazing memories. We often get asked how we capture our travel photos together – you can read a whole blog post with our tips here! They are nearly always taken with our camera mounted on a tripod with a timer or remote control shutter release.

Tips for Traveling as a Couple - Renee Roaming

Couple selfie at Cypress Tree Tunnel, California

 

I would highly recommend traveling with your loved one if you haven’t already!

Who else loves traveling with their partner? Comment below and tell me your tips.

 

Want more? Check these out!

How To Take Stunning Travel Photos As A Couple

10 Tips To Feeling More At Home On The Road

Our American National Parks Adventure 

Van Life – Is It Worth The Hype

 

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Traveling as a couple truly tests your love for one another. You aren’t usually “your best self” when you absolutely stink, are exhausted, stressed about money or homesick. But boy do you learn SO much about each other when your love is pushed to the limits. In this post, I’ll be sharing my tried and tested tips for traveling as a couple… (coming from someone who has traveled with their significant other for the last 11 years!)

Tips For Traveling as a Couple

Tips for Traveling as a Couple - Renee Roaming

Exploring Grampians National Park, Australia

First, Our Story…

My husband and I were only 19 years old when we went on our first long trip together. This adventure entailed a 2-month traverse across South America and there were plenty of ups and downs.

You think you know someone fairly well… until you see them vomiting up their guts, peeing in the backcountry, shattered after two long days of transit, or pushed to exhaustion on a multi-day trek.

During that trip, I learned an incredible amount about myself but also about my husband (who was my boyfriend of 18 months at the time). I learned that it’s okay to look gross and feel vulnerable in front of each other, that at the end of the day it actually brings you closer.

It showed me that we could both step up in times of need and take care of each other. It taught me to have (A LOT) of patience and kindness, even if it was the last thing I felt like doing. Over the course of those 2 months, we saw the best and the worst sides of each other.

There were some things that I didn’t like to see or feel, but these moments helped our relationship to grow and mature.

Tips for Traveling as a Couple

Looking like babies on our trip to South America in 2009 (excuse the photo quality!)

I have taken many more trips with my husband since that South American journey. In 2012 we road tripped for 3 months across North America, and in 2014 we spent 6 weeks exploring Europe together.

When we eventually were married in November 2014, I felt like I knew the real man behind those gorgeous blue eyes. I believe spending 24 hours a day together on those long trips really helped us get to know one another and grow closer.

Since marrying we turned our love for travel into a full-time career, so now we pretty much spend 24/7 together (including the time we lived in a tiny van for 7 months as we road tripped to all 59 American National Parks…)

These tips haven’t changed over the years, in contrast I think they have just been more solidified each trip we take. Like anything in life though, it’s always a learning process and continual adaptation is key to growth and happiness.

Tips for Traveling as a Couple - Renee Roaming

Taking in the views of Trolltunga in 2014

These are some of the things I have learned about traveling with a loved one. I am definitely not perfect and have fallen victim to all of these mistakes, but you live and you learn right?

Go with the flow

Don’t be that annoying person who needs to have everything planned to the last second. This can be very stressful and will make the trip feel rushed and like something you need to “tick-off”. If things don’t work out as they expected, just laugh about it and brainstorm what you will do next, as a duo.

Have some alone time

When traveling, sometimes the only “alone time” you will get is when you use the bathroom or take a shower, and these are often not even option if you are camping. Deliberately schedule some alone time. For us, this often looks like one of us grabbing a coffee or going for a walk while the other person chills in the hotel, van, tent, or wherever. Another option is to invest in some noise canceling headphones and each person can get into their own little chill-out zone.

Tips for Traveling as a Couple - Renee Roaming

Living in a van together for 7 months as we explored America’s National Parks

Don’t forget to be nice

When you are on the go all the time it might slip your mind to say nice words to each other or show your appreciation. It’s so important to still say those things you might think the other person just “knows”, like a simple “thank you”, “please” or “I love you”. In contrast, be mindful of the words you do say. Think before you speak. Consider how your words might make the other person feel before blurting them out in a moment of frustration.

Acknowledge when things are tough

When everything just sucks it can help to point it out and make a conscious effort to not let it get between you. Try to laugh about it and work through it together. If you turn on each other it will suck WAY more. We have learned over the years to just have a good laugh when things are going badly… I mean, what is whining about it going to change?

Couples Adventure Getaway to British Columbia Golden Ears Provincial Park 1

Camping in Golden Ears Provincial Park, Canada

Be lighthearted

A silly car singalong will always make you feel good. Even if you have been driving for hours, crank up your favorite tunes and dance and sing until our heart is content. My husband and I often get to a “delirious” stage when we have been traveling for a while. Blasting Taylor Swift at full volume never ceases to put us in a better mood (my husband might kill me for writing that…)

Capture memories

Don’t forget to bring a tripod if you want some photos together! These make amazing memories. We often get asked how we capture our travel photos together – you can read a whole blog post with our tips here! They are nearly always taken with our camera mounted on a tripod with a timer or remote control shutter release.

Tips for Traveling as a Couple - Renee Roaming

Couple selfie at Cypress Tree Tunnel, California

 

I would highly recommend traveling with your loved one if you haven’t already!

Who else loves traveling with their partner? Comment below and tell me your tips.

 

Want more? Check these out!

How To Take Stunning Travel Photos As A Couple

10 Tips To Feeling More At Home On The Road

Our American National Parks Adventure 

Van Life – Is It Worth The Hype

 

PIN FOR LATER!

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Renee Hahnel

Hi! My name is Renee and I'm an Australian photographer, blogger & travel addict. I now call the U.S.A home but you can usually find me wandering the globe with a camera in hand ✈ Let's get lost!

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12 Comments

  1. Jackie on April 18, 2016 at 5:15 am

    One of the best things about traveling with a loved one is often just knowing what the other person’s thinking or what they need without saying a word. You get in sync with one another and then everything just flows (well most of the time).

    • Renee Hahnel on April 22, 2016 at 7:34 pm

      Absolutely! I love that

  2. Daria on April 20, 2016 at 2:38 pm

    Best thing about travelling together is that sense of assurance. While travelling me and my beloved, we’ve been facing situations when something went wrong – tickets home not avaiable no more, suddenly no place to sleep, lost in the city, or lost high in the mountains when it is getting dark. In those hard times you need to know that everything is going to be OK, you have to be with the one you can trust.

    • Renee Hahnel on April 22, 2016 at 7:34 pm

      I totally agree. It is so nice to have that support and comfort when times are tough

  3. Faye on July 30, 2016 at 11:53 am

    It truly pushes love to its limits. Though if something does come up, or a disagreement happens, it will force the couple to work things out right then and there, and possibly come to a solution, agreement, or some sort of compromise for future incidences. It also forces each individual to be more selfless and cater to each other’s needs.

  4. Faye on July 30, 2016 at 11:54 am

    Btw, love the blog and pictures! The Norway picture looks amazing, I’d have to learn to let go of trust issues, handing over my camera to someone with that much distance! >_<

    • Renee Hahnel on August 10, 2016 at 5:10 pm

      Norway is out of this world! Tripods come in handy for that 😉

  5. Caroline on January 14, 2017 at 4:40 pm

    I love this. My boyfriend and I met while I was backpacking Europe and we’ve been dating and traveling together ever since. People always ask if it seems like a “real” relationship since most of it has been visiting one another or traveling. I’ve found out it feels more intense than any other I’ve been in because you get to know the people you travel with so much.

    • Renee Hahnel on January 15, 2017 at 12:38 pm

      I couldn’t agree more! Travel is the perfect way to get to know someone in their most “real” form. Enjoy your travels and thanks for reading!

  6. Tamara on January 18, 2017 at 7:39 pm

    I recently just started traveling with my partner and started an instagram. It’s still amature as we’re just using an iPhone but love the advice you gave above. Follow us on instagram @adventuresofpepandtoona

    • Renee Hahnel on January 21, 2017 at 12:01 pm

      I’m glad you found it helpful! I will definitely check out your account 🙂

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Renee Hahnel

Hi! My name is Renee and I'm an Australian photographer, blogger & travel addict. I now call the U.S.A home but you can usually find me wandering the globe with a camera in hand ✈ Let's get lost!

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